Pornography and Sex Abuse

So I am walking through my greatest struggle right now.  More difficult than being a wife, more difficult than being a sister and more difficult than being the mother of irish triplets.  Many of you know that when I was seven years old I was molested for the first time.  I did not tell my parents until I was in my twenties that this happened and as I recall it was revealed in a very casual conversation in the back of the SUV driving home one day.  At the time, I had no idea how this one event was shaping my decisions and my self-worth.  I was not molested because my parents did anything wrong or because God didn’t care about me.  I have had a very close relationship with both of my parents and know they love me beyond the ends of the earth!  I don’t really want to address the reasons I believe why this happened to me but rather share what is happening in my life now.  This may sound strange but, I had this very clear vision yesterday during worship.  There is this computer game called Diablo ( I am not recommending anyone play this or saying you are a horrible sinner if you do play it) that I used to play a few years back.  In this game, you have a character who starts the game with just a loin cloth and a sword and as you go through these battles, you are rewarded with more armor and weapons.  The character walks down dark corridors to find evil characters to kill, beginning with little weak guys and ending with the biggest baddest dude you can find.  This particularly ugly, vile guy has to be killed before your character can move on to the next level.  If you don’t feel prepared to battle him right away, you can go down other pathways and kill the smaller guys to get more armor and weapons before returning to that big, bad dude at the end.  It looks kind of like this:

diablo3

The vision I had, was me walking down a pathway towards this intensely intimate relationship with Jesus but, there was this bad thing in front of me.  “Staring into the face of evil” is what came to my mind.  I have been glancing at this evil and then turning and walking down another path.  There are other things to conquer down those paths and rewards there for me but, not moving to the “next level.”  When I saw this, I asked the Lord, “Why am I turning away?”  God immediately answered me with a feeling: Fear.  I realized that I am afraid that the Devil will destroy me if I try to battle him in this area of my life.  Hopefully this sets the stage for the rest of the post.

Let me go back one week…

Dan Baumann was speaking to all of the DTS classes together about intimacy with God and how that is the most important thing.  He shared his testimony about being a prisoner in Iran as a missionary, I think it would be best if you hear it from him so here is a video of his testimony:

I realized when hearing him speak, that no matter what the circumstances, knowing God is possible and I began to ask the Lord for more.  Even at times, standing during worship, pounding my fists on the stage, demanding more passion and closeness with Him.  No matter how many times I raise my hands in praise, sing or dance; there was still something blocking me from really getting to Him.  I HAD ENOUGH!!  The Lord reminded me of what I always described would happen when I see Jesus face to face.  I believed I would run to Him and fall on my face just before reaching Him, unworthy of His sacrifice on the cross.  Well, last Thursday, I had a new vision of that moment: Jesus and I run to each other and embrace like we were seeing a long-lost friend.  We couldn’t let go of each other… let me put it this way, He couldn’t let go of me because He desired me as much as I desire Him.  As I felt the sensation of being so worthy of His love, I immediately asked – “HOW DO I GET THERE?!”

So, this week a gentleman named Kenny Jackson shared  a seminar called “Kingdom Sexuality”.  My understanding coming into this week’s seminar was that he was talking about marriage and family… ummm, not exactly.  Kenny did begin talking about the importance of marriage etc.  The second day, he began speaking about a man named Alfred Kinsey.  Alfred Kinsey wrote “The Kinsey Reports” which was inspired by his study of the gall wasp.  He discovered that every gall wasp he collected was different from the one before.  From this study of the gall wasp he concluded that there wasn’t just one universal truth about human sexuality.  Kinsey “took off” on a journey of what he called research to prove his view of human sexuality.  Kinsey’s reports basically changed our society completely when it came to sex.  He is quoted as saying “The only unnatural sex act is that which you cannot perform”.  During our class we learned about his research and particularly his research on children and babies.  Here are two of the tables from his book “Sexual Behavior in the Human Male”:

Table 32 on page 178 "Sexual Behavior in the Human Male"

Table 32 on page 178 “Sexual Behavior in the Human Male”

Table 34, page 180 from "Sexual Behavior in the Human Male"

Table 34, page 180 from “Sexual Behavior in the Human Male”

So, if you read these charts you will see that Kinsey was measuring orgasms in children starting a 5 months of age.  No one reading this is stupid, so you know that either Kinsey or one of his collaborators was molesting children to get this information.  Alfred Kinsey is dead now so it might seem like it doesn’t matter.  I mean, some dead guy wrote these books and let’s move on right?  No.

THIS IS ME FIGHTING THE EVIL I AM FACING:  Before “The Kinsey Reports” were published, sex crimes such as incest (sex with a child) came with the death penalty when convicted in California.  Kinsey’s writing was used to drastically change the laws and now in California, the individual would only get up to 8 years in prison if convicted (which frequently it becomes only 1 year).  Also, in his reports he states that children felt pleasure even though they were fighting their molesters.  You can see this report on Judith Reisman’s website here, it is very graphic and painful to read which is why I am not posting it directly on our blog.  This information has been used countless times by defense attorneys asking if the victim felt pleasure during the crime.  That defense tactic came directly from Alfred Kinsey!!  At one point in his “research” career, Kinsey lost his funding from the Rockefeller Foundation due to problems with his research process and regained funding from Hugh Hefner.  For those who don’t know, Hugh Hefner is the founder and owner of Playboy (a soft-porn magazine).  Hugh Hefner used the information from Kinsey’s writing to create cartoons that included children in sexual situations with adults and women dressed as little girls to excite their readers.  In the 1980’s Judith Reisman was given an $800,000 grant from American University to research Kinsey’s role in child sex abuse.  The result was 3 congressional investigations into her work which directly connects the rise in child sexual abuse with Alfred Kinsey and pornography.  The Head of the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children, John Rabun said “This study (Reisman’s) must be read by all concerned with the ways pornography and violence in the media effect the incidence of child exploitation and abuse.”  The viewing of pornography, even what is considered soft-porn like Playboy leaves an open door for evil for our children.  I have a video of Judith Reisman speaking that is about 30 minutes long and I encourage you to watch it when you have time.  Her website: http://www.drjudithreisman.com/ has great information on all of this that I encourage you to read.

The most disturbing thing about all of this is that the sex education training for public schools is directly founded on Kinsey’s principles.  I used to feel like I would gladly send my kids to public schools and just talk to them about what they learned in sex education.  However, after learning this, I realize that I would be asking my children to drink water with some poison in it.  They are so precious to me that I could never do that, no matter how diluted that poison may be.  We have been taught in the US that if you are molested or raped, tell someone about it.  What does it show our children if they tell us they are raped and their rapist only gets 3 years probation?  Our children are being sent a message that everything is permissible so why bother fighting it?  We need to take the offensive against our enemy and fight to get laws changed.  This means a change in our fundamental understanding of sexuality.  Marriage between a man and a woman is good and it is mean to be forever!  Having children is a blessing not a burden!  Sex acts are not meant just to pleasure you in your moment of need but rather to create relationship between you and the one God has given to you!

Jeremy and I are about to go to the Philippines where the age of consent is only 12 years old.  Imagine an adult can have sex with your 12-year-old and it is considered legal.  Overall, 37.5% of children and 97% of girls in the Philippines are reported as being sexually abused where it is legal at the age of 12.  We have this awesome opportunity to bring the freedom that only comes from Jesus to these girls and boys who have been sexually abused.  If you feel lead to support us in our outreach to the Philippines check out our Financial Support Page (re-done).  Please pray that lives will be changed during our outreach and God will continue to prepare our family for this ministry.

If you want more information on the addictive nature of pornography and how to help get this out of our lives, please visit:

www.fightthenewdrug.org 

If you find yourself looking at pornography, I urge you to check out this website:

www.settingcaptivesfree.com 

This website deals with any addictive behavior from smoking to pornography.  I have heard testimonies of people set free from looking at porn and their marriages have been saved, even set on fire again.

Judith Reisman video: 

Father God, this has been so difficult to write.  I have had to pull myself away from my husband and children for hours to put this together and I know it has been Your Will to do it.  I ask that you would use this mightily for the purposes of healing and freeing Your children!  This blog belongs to You, Lord and not to any evil forces in this world.  Please protect what is written here, and protect the hearts of those who may have been abused as children.  Give them hope, Lord!  Show them that they are valued above anything they can do in this world!  We are valued because You created us and You love us because of who we are!  Thank you for the understanding You are giving me and the strength You give me every day to face the really big bad dude in front of me.  I am so glad that when I meet You, You will hold me because you just like me so much!  Love You.

A Little Gift: if you need something to cheer you up after reading all of this, check out the new pics on our Irish Triplets Page!

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